Stars are no exception when it comes to looking for answers to spiritual questions. Paris Hilton, for example, likes to read books written by life coach Gary Quinn. In the photo to the left, she is reading: “Living in the Spiritual Zone.”
I had the opportunity to interview Gary and we talked about celebrities, spirituality and a whole lot of things in between.
DANA HEIDNER: Gary, people read your books all over the world. You also have celebrity clients in your profession as a life coach — stars come to you and ask for your advice. Do they have different questions compared to the “Average Joe”?
GARY QUINN: It’s all relatively the same. It has to do with money, career, romance, or health. It is basically about the necessities of one’s life. Or it could be about their spiritual growth–how to expand that.
DANA HEIDNER: Why do they need a spiritual adviser? Don’t they have everything?
GARY QUINN: I think they want someone who is detached from their circle; they are looking for someone to guide them or give them insight to their lives. They worry as normal people do that they are not able to have the right job, the right country or city, or wherever they think they should live.
DANA HEIDNER During the last decade, countless books about positive thinking were published, with advice like “If you just think a certain way, everything will be all right and things will be good.” What about the gap between reality and wishful thinking?
GARY QUINN: I think when you think positive and a lot of negative things are going on, it’s just the way you view them. They really aren’t negative things, more like challenges or opportunities to change or to educate or to bring in a different light. Pertaining to the world events, it’s not that the world is going under, it’s more like the eleventh hour, where everybody has to wake up. It’s their own responsibility.
DANA HEIDNER: It is sometimes a fine line between thinking positive and seeing things as they are, isn’t it?
GARY QUINN: If you are constantly in a positive framework, you are able to at least move quicker and you also don’t stay in the negative. It is easier to be negative than positive.
DANA HEIDNER: What do you suggest for someone who really does his best to stay positive and, then, something happens that ignites anger?
GARY QUINN: Well, I think instead of buying into the actual event—and I am not saying that you shouldn’t have any emotion—you should go into the emotion and feel it. You are angry for five minutes, but you are not angry for five days. There is a big difference between filtering the emotion, letting it flow through you and cutting it off as opposed to “I’m going to be angry for 20 years.” You can’t do that because it keeps you stuck in the past. When you are in the past, you really aren’t fulfilling your dreams or desires in the now.
DANA HEIDNER: So, it is good to release that anger?
GARY QUINN: Yes, you shortly let it out, instead of carrying it around all day. Otherwise, your whole day will be influenced by anger.
DANA HEIDNER: What if other people are influenced by that anger? Do you see it as the other person’s responsibility, to deal with that?
GARY QUINN: I feel they should be like a beach ball. They should let it bounce off of them, but they shouldn’t take it on. You know, say your boss is completely angry with you everyday and you are going to work and you are just taking it when he keeps yelling at you. I think you need to look at his reflection of how he feels. It has nothing to do with you. But what if he is mentally abusing you, let’s say, saying horrible things to you. At some point, you have to turn that off. You have to send him love, doing amazing, kind things to him until he changes. Meaning: you might be bringing his favorite lunch to him, you might be sending out for an in-house massage for him. After about 21 days of that, he might turn around and surprise you. Or, he might continue and you might have to quit, but you obviously made a choice and you might have had a reaction out of that time period.
DANA HEIDNER: I have heard of that ‘magical time span’ of 21 days. It is like ‘do something for 21 days and it will induce change.’ However, in that kind of situation, you will probably think “Me? Who am I to send this creep an in-house massage?” And you should still have loving thoughts towards this person?
GARY QUINN: Absolutely. When you think that way, you have become a different frequency than him, so he can’t really hurt you or penetrate your energy.
DANA HEIDNER: I see. When you act this way, you actually take charge. Do you create your own reality?
GARY QUINN: Absolutely. What you are doing enhances where your energy is. That means, if you continue to choose to do something you really love, the money will come, because you activate an excitement, joy, trust, happiness, and balance within your own soul, so you become electrically charged and money just comes.
DANA HEIDNER: What is your take on the times we currently live in?
GARY QUINN: I think that right now, what people are experiencing is that they are looking for something to change their life or how they can become more in this life. They really have to look at what is their fear about their current situation or their current life. Once they isolate that, they need to look at what is their joy, what is their word; who are they? When they find that word that describes who they are, whether it be confidence, love, compassion, passion, excellence—that word has to be implemented in their lives 24/7, so they will start to react and attract. Then they start to expand out of their belief system or their fear base and what’s been keeping them stuck.
Gary Quinn is a bestselling author and life coach who lives in Los Angeles. His books have been published in English, Spanish, Portuguese, Japanese, and German.